An Attractive Life Choice For Wild Women In Their Prime

Forget sugar babies. Can Sugar Dames please become a thing?

If women get better with age, many of us should be pretty damn close to magnificent, am I right?

I published this story several months ago on Medium and to date, it is one of my highest-earning stories ever. That should say a lot about the state of mature women completely owning our status in life.

I was SO pleased with the feedback that I’ve decided to share it here. I hope the ladies enjoy it and the men forgive me 😂

Many years ago, I met a man at a hotel bar who offered me a lifestyle that was difficult to refuse. I would have taken him up on it in a heartbeat if there had been money involved.

He was a private pilot for the filthy rich. His job was to fly wealthy people wherever they wanted to go and then basically sit in hotels or resorts on standby while his clients frolicked around doing what rich people do.

The night I met him and his flight attendant at that bar was a truly enlightening experience.

The two of them filled me in on everything about their jobs — the good, the bad, and the ugly. They told me about legally binding contracts protecting the identities of their clients. And I got to learn about all the destinations they visited and enjoyed on someone else’s dime.

I wanted that life.

Needless to say, after a few drinks and several hours, the pilot and I took a shine to each other and did what consenting adults do after meeting in a hotel bar 😁 The two of us shared an unreasonable amount of laughs and great conversation well into the wee hours.

He was American, originally from the Dominican Republic, and he had such a comfortable vibe about him. We spent part of the next day together, then hooked up one more time the second night before he would be off to his next destination.

We enjoyed each other’s company so much that we decided to keep in touch.

A few weeks later, he called to tell me he was flying his newest clients to Barbados and asked if I’d like to join him. All I’d need to do was book my own flight and the rest would be taken care of. Accommodation, food, drinks, and fun would be covered on his tab, paid for by the rich people.

The roadblock for me was short notice and, of course, life obligations. I would have to book time off work and find an affordable flight, both of which were not feasible on such short notice.

Sadly, I had to turn him down.

This played out for many more months.

My pilot invited me on several more of these short-notice excursions, all of which I had to turn down in exchange for life commitments.

His lifestyle couldn’t be my lifestyle unless I had a way to pay my bills while gallivanting around the world. Unfortunately, even though he was a pilot for the ultra-rich, he was just an average salaried employee without the means to ‘Sugar Dad’ my life.

I can’t imagine how lonely it must be to enjoy all the finer things in life by yourself.

I met that pilot in my late 30’s. I am now 52 with fewer responsibilities and commitments, and a job I can do from anywhere in the world. I’m at a much different stage in life and could probably pull it off.

But now I have no pilot.

And now I’m possibly well past the expiration date of being selected should I ever come across another “pilot.”

In doing a bit of research, I read that the prime age range for sugar babies is between early twenties and mid-thirties. It’s probably rare that a man would choose a woman in her fifties to whisk away on all-expense-paid adventures and paying her bills.

Women in their prime.

I think all those sugar daddies are missing out on an entire category of magnificent women by limiting their age range. We women in our primes could be some badass “Sugar Dames” who already have our shit together and have come into our own splendor.

Our maturity level uniquely qualifies us to contribute to the success of the arrangement. We can be there to add to the partnership rather than be dependent on it.

A Sugar Dame doesn’t need her college tuition covered, she just wants to go on vacations and let loose now. She already knows how to cater to a man’s needs because she’s got years of experience in that department.

She’s there to benefit him while mostly benefiting herself.

To put it in simple terms, a Sugar Dame will blow his mind in exchange for what she desires out of life.

Women of our rank are more likely to be past the point of looking for the love of our lives which enables us to live to the fullest, without drama and baggage. We’re into the freedom and ease stage of life — the perfect complement to a gentleman seeking an arrangement.

With a Sugar Dame, it wouldn’t appear as though he paid us to be there. We’d fit in as his partner, not his trust-fund girlfriend.

Women of our rank can mingle with the best of the best because we’ve already been there and done it. We’re cultivated and discerning in the streets, but we invented the term “freak in the sheets.”

We know the value of a dollar because we’ve managed our own money up until this point, so we’ll gladly give our sugar kings a bang for their buck. We can appreciate him.

A seasoned woman isn’t only interested in a wealthy man’s good fortune. We’re interested in knowing about the achievements and successes behind his good fortune because we know the value of hard work.

It’s not that we can’t or don’t want to pay our own bills, we just want to maximize our lifestyle and diversify. We’ve earned the privilege and the opportunity of spending someone else’s money because we have a firm grasp of the concept of reciprocity.

We are the makings of a perfect arrangement for the successful, discerning gentleman.

And at the end of the day, we’ll gladly go home to the peace and comfort of our own homes because we like it there. It’s where our Netflix settings are exactly as we left them and our dogs are faithfully waiting for us to come home. 😁

Usually, I have a thought-provoking question to wrap up my posts but I’m struggling to ask a question here. But I’d still love your feedback!

Ladies…how about this Sugar Dame thing? Should we start a club for those of us looking for free vacations and fancy cocktail parties? 😁

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Just so the men know I haven’t left them out, this one’s for you guys!