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Right?! These guys don't know what they are missing out on. I had a couple of similar offers back in the day except they were from much older men, none of whom I was attracted to, and I was to be the young arm candy. I didn't bite because there was no common ground and it just seemed weird (because it WAS weird!). This is very different than the mutual affection you and your pilot had.

If I had the money and was single, and there was someone interesting I wanted to spend time with, I would happily pay for them to accompany me on a trip where we would tour art galleries and talk about books!

Great essay Kristi, I'm glad it gained a lot of traction.

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Exactly this! Like I just said in my reply with Teri, I would actually have to like the person to be able to spend time with them, no matter how lavish the offering is lol. I need quality connections in my life, not financial ones 😁

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something we have in common. I had a "pilot" offer similar options to me, but not nearly as glamorous. He just wanted me to meet him in various locations around the world to travel together. Except I didn't have the funds to do that.

the thing about Sugar Dames is that we would expect our Sugar Daddies to treat us with respect, and sadly, many good ole boys don't know how to do this.

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I think my biggest expectation would be that he and I could get along as great friends because if I don't "like" someone I can't spend time with them no matter how luxurious the offer 😁

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totally agree. there is exactly one person on this planet that I like enough to spend 24/7 with. my Hobbit. took me 44 years to meet him.

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Oh, Kristi, you nailed it! What’s more, Sugar Dames, thanks to their years of experience, can offer real conversation and insightful companionship along with all the other benefits. Remember Hendrix: Are you experienced?

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I'm long past even the Sugar Dame years, Kristi, but I hear you! This is a fun post but also quite a refreshing perspective.

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Hahaha thank you Paulette. Sometimes I really hesitate before pushing publish and this was one of those times 😁 But we've all lived a life, right?

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We sure have! Let's keep on trucking!

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Who’s to say that the original pilot doesn’t yearn for you too? It’s worth a dial…

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Haha Carrie, I do know from social media that he now has kids so he's probably married 😁

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I mean, maybe? Equally, he could be divorced…

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Carrie, your optimism is awesome 😁 And, you could be right! If I think of how my life has morphed over the years, anything is possible.

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All I’m sayin’ is it’s worth reaching out. At worst, he is happily married but still is flattered by you getting in touch. You’ve got nothing to lose!

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Well, at least you're not on auto pilot, Kristi!

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I mean, being ON this auto pilot could be fun 🤣

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Haha! Love this response!

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Proof that I'm not TOTALLY dead inside. Just mostly 😁

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What a great post! Thanks for sharing, Kristi!

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You're welcome Sue!

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A friend of my son was a pilot for people like in your article, but he decided to go big or go home. He now flies hauling cargo in a 747.

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That's awesome Paul! I used to work as a hotel bartender and chatted with many pilots who have made the same career moves. The guy in this story is now a first officer for AA. I guess it's all steps of career progression in the industry!

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Love this story! I wonder what would happen if you sent him a LinkedIn message saying you were thinking of him and wrote this piece and wanted to share…I bet he thinks about you, too. True chemistry is rare in life!

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I sometimes wonder if the people we meet through travel think about us the way we think about them. As a pilot, maybe I was just another one of his flings on the road. But then, maybe not! Who's to know?

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Hmmm…are you a wild woman in your prime ?

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Love this post, Kristi. I raise a toast to all the men who can appreciate a Sugar Dame. It might be a small group, but the times may be a-changin'.

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Haha thanks Marlee! I wish it was a real career choice lol.

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A shout out to all the women here who are still living life on their own terms.

In my early 60s now, but feel like I'm still in my 30s, and can keep up with the best of them.

You know what I love? When I leave the house and go off and do my errands and whatever I do when I come home it's exactly the way I left it 😂

Just about all the guys I've dated and one I almost married- they needed mothers or just someone to take care of them and I don't want to be a man's mother.

I'm happy with my life the way it is now. I'm available, dedicated and honored to be able to take care of my mother who lives next-door on the 10 acres and I come and go as I please and I don't have to answer to anyone.

Life is good 💯‼️

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See, and that’s kind of how I feel about my life now too! Nobody to answer to and nowhere to be. It’s a pretty peaceful existence.

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✋ high five sister

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A bit sad, don’t you think 🤷🏻

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Nope, not at all!!!

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This was very fun to read. And you know if you found a sugar daddy who was 20 years older, you'd still be a sugar baby to him

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This is true but at 52, would I be attracted to a 72 year old? I mean...if Denzel Washington knocked on my front door I wouldn't turn him away and he's 69.

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If you are 52, you can be really attractive for a man who is 65 years old. Not every man, of course, will be seduced, but you can find one who can be happy with you. And choose one who is in the same mood, who likes what you like. A good friend of mine, her husband committed suicide, 5 or six years ago, is still looking for men, and she talked to me about places, dancing places in the afternoon. One Portuguese guy insisted on accompanying her to her home. Nothing happened, She had important responsibilities in our company.

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Maybe if he's skilled enough it's not about the attraction😉

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Teehee….that made me giggle like a school girl 😂

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I did not know there was a catchy title that encompassed my #LifeGoals until this very moment.

2025: Year of the Sugar Dame

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HA!!! I'm down! Let's start the club.

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It should definitely be a thing! And kudos for keeping up with what he’s up to 😉

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Right? The internet is a gorgeous tool for us nosy folks…

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Gorgeous and creepy 😂

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